I Completely agree. I’ve experienced a similar situation. I also decided not to be ‘vulnerable’ in LinkedIn posts for fear it would turn off prospective clients.
“I’m 100% in agreement with every single word. Especially true if you are a minority, bringing too much personal stuff to work just opens you up to attack!”
Anonymous reader emails: 'I think about the time I tried to deal with a bullying boss’ aggressive behaviour by gently suggesting some of their communications were very direct. This feedback was not welcome and I was advised that being in a team meant I needed to adapt.
A head of the organisation asked the whole organisation for feedback on his performance via email sent by his PA- who would risk giving any kind of honest feedback if there was any kind of suggestion that it might have a negative impact on them?'
"should" is a very loaded word. Nobody has to (or should) bring their best selves to work - certainly not at all times and not in front of everyone. What these so-called management books are revealing that we all have a choice to do so. After all, if work is not life, then I don't know what it is.
To add to the above, your post brings to the front the sad reality of our workplaces today, and we need leaders who stand up for change. And I am not talking about leaders as in "holding a leadership title" here. To rephrase, I am not saying everyone "should" stand up for change and what is right, but that everyone has a choice to do so.
I Completely agree. I’ve experienced a similar situation. I also decided not to be ‘vulnerable’ in LinkedIn posts for fear it would turn off prospective clients.
Anonymous reader emails:
“I’m 100% in agreement with every single word. Especially true if you are a minority, bringing too much personal stuff to work just opens you up to attack!”
Anonymous reader emails: 'I think about the time I tried to deal with a bullying boss’ aggressive behaviour by gently suggesting some of their communications were very direct. This feedback was not welcome and I was advised that being in a team meant I needed to adapt.
A head of the organisation asked the whole organisation for feedback on his performance via email sent by his PA- who would risk giving any kind of honest feedback if there was any kind of suggestion that it might have a negative impact on them?'
"should" is a very loaded word. Nobody has to (or should) bring their best selves to work - certainly not at all times and not in front of everyone. What these so-called management books are revealing that we all have a choice to do so. After all, if work is not life, then I don't know what it is.
To add to the above, your post brings to the front the sad reality of our workplaces today, and we need leaders who stand up for change. And I am not talking about leaders as in "holding a leadership title" here. To rephrase, I am not saying everyone "should" stand up for change and what is right, but that everyone has a choice to do so.